It’s OK to be Sad.

Upset woman sitting alone on city stairs
You are not alone. God is with you.

The last few months have been challenging, to say the least. The days go by, and we are all facing the question, “when will this end”? The unknown is heavy. These are what I call “the days of weird”. It is easy to wake up each morning and dread the day. As a nation, we are all struggling. I don’t think there is a single human being that hasn’t felt the sense of oppression at some point in the last few months. This causes us to face a reality. Some days it is hard to be positive, and an overwhelming sense of sadness can take over.  The truth is, our nation is facing a serious depression issue. Sadness is being prolonged, leading into longer term depression, and we need to be addressing it and talking about it.

What does it mean to be sad? Does it mean we are weak? No. Does it mean our faith is not where it should be? No. Sadness is a human emotion that we all face at some point in our life. Sadness is an emptiness that needs to be filled. Often times when we face times of sadness, we tend to withdraw. We isolate, seclude ourselves, and reject others. This is the time when we need to pray. This is the time when we need others. But as flesh, we are weak. We fall into the trap of thinking that sadness and depression are “shameful”. There is no shame in our normal human emotions; especially during these unprecedented times. A spiritual war is going on around us. The enemy uses this time to manipulate our thoughts. The enemy wants you to believe that feeling sad or depressed is wrong. The enemy is a liar.

We have HOPE. We are not alone. We have a God who is greater than any obstacle this world throws in our path. We have each other, and Jesus walks alongside us every second of every day. The enemy wants you to forget that. Our greatest weapon against the enemy is prayer and the Scripture. This is the time when we need to pick up our Bible more than ever. But why is it so hard to pray or seek The Word when we are sad? Once again, the enemy tries to hold you down, push you away from Jesus, and block the very power that God has given us.

Even if we don’t feel like praying or reading God’s Word during our sadness, it’s the most powerful thing we can do. Whispering prayer to God gives Him the opportunity to enter into your heart. Dropping to your knees is surrender, even if you don’t have words to speak. We must invite God in. We have been given free will to live our lives as we choose. God will not invade that free will, therefore, we must ask God to come to us. We must pray. Even if it’s three words muttered under your breath. “God, help me,” or “guide me through”, it is a prayer that God will hear. Reading God’s Word points us back to the Cross. It brings our spirit to the surface. It opens our hearts to allow God to nourish our soul.

Sadness is ok. Maintaining the sadness is not ok. Allow people that God places in your life to help you. Answer the text, open the door, and let people love on you. You have permission to recieve help. There is no shame in depression and sadness. Give yourself the gift of love, through God’s people, prayer, and the words in scripture that are written in love. Remind yourself that you are loved more than anything on this earth. You have the control and power given to you through Jesus, to overcome. Your Heavenly Father created you in His image. Seek Him in prayer and through His Word and He will lift you up in due time. I assure you, God is with you, always.

**If you are feeling hopeless, please reach out for help. I have a non-profit ministry that can help guide you or your family. If you need immediate help and are experiencing suicidal thoughts, please don’t let shame hold you back from calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline emergency crisis lines. 1-800-273-8255. You are worth it, you are valuable, and you are loved.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path. PROVERBS 3:5-6

The Lord will guide you always; He will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail. ISAIAH 58:11

God is with us.

© Layla Freeman 2020
Author of HOPE IN THE STRUGGLE and Layla’s Light 
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Light of Hope  Main Offices:  403 West 1st Street  Claremore, OK 74017Food Pantry:  400 N. J. M. Davis Blvd. Claremore, OK 74017 

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Layla Freeman

Layla Freeman is a wife, mother, friend, and encourager to all. She is a passionate disciple of Jesus Christ. Layla is the C.E.O. and Founder of the Non-Profit outreach ministry called “Light of Hope”. This is an outreach to help individuals and families who are struggling with addiction and life difficulties. On Christmas Eve 2013, Layla lost her oldest daughter Ashley. Ashley was only 23 years old. There is no greater pain than child loss. Layla attributes her ability to face each day, to the overwhelming love of Jesus, who carries her through. This very difficult journey has given Layla the desire to help those who are facing difficult times and to help people see the hope. Her love for helping others is the passion behind Light of Hope. Light of Hope non-profit ministry has a vast variety of services that encourage, educate, empower and bring change and hope to the lives of those who need restoration and new life. Layla was awarded the Non-Profit “Leading Lady” award of Rogers County in 2018. She was also voted #1 community volunteer “Best of Claremore” in both 2019 & 2020. On June 9, 2020, Layla Freeman was Inducted into the Prestigious Marquis Who’s Who Biographical National Registry, as well as recognized as an “Amazing Oklahoman” in October 2020. Additionally, her non-profit Light of Hope was awarded the "Non-Profit of the Year" in both 2019 & 2020 and is also the winner of the International 2020 Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) Community Drug Prevention Award. Layla is also an author. Her first book publication, HOPE IN THE STRUGGLE, offers hope in the midst of dark times. Layla is also the author of the encouragement blog “Layla’s Light,” found on Facebook or on her website, She has been actively writing since 2001. Layla’s personal experience in the extreme difficulties of life gives her a deep understanding of brokenness. Therefore, Layla’s writing and passion behind her desire to help others is empowered by the truth of God’s unconditional love and forgiveness, and the hope we find in God’s promises. Layla is also a Business Owner/Vice President of Asset Industrial, Inc. She and her husband, Randall, work together providing services necessary for the oil refinery industry. She is also a respected Executive Committee Board Member, serving on the State Northeast Oklahoma Workforce Development Board. Layla is a public speaker and enjoys the opportunity to speak and present to groups, schools, churches, organizations, conferences, etc. She has a passion to bring awareness, education, and hope to our society. She believes that working together, and collaboration with others is the key to healthy families and stronger communities. In addition, Layla is a Stephen Minister, Congregational Care Minister, Lay Servant/Speaker, and a volunteer for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation. (Layla has two daughters who face Type 1 Diabetes daily).

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