When You ‘Feel’ Given Out.

no one has ever become poor by giving

This time of year there’s a lot of focus on giving. People are drawn to helping others, donating to organizations, and serving in different capacities. It seems like the holidays really focus on this. But if you’re like me, giving happens all year long. I’m a silent giver. People don’t know who I give to, who I have physically helped, or to what level. I’m a private person when it comes to these subjects. So, what happens when your ‘giver’, ‘feels’ given out. What happens when you feel depleted? In all honesty, we are still human and have emotions that can begin to nag on us. Giving in private, undisclosed, means no one knows, and there’s no recognition. Sometimes people take advantage of your giving. It is at this point where you feel exhausted from giving and doing so much. The human part of us begins to wonder if all this giving is worth the exhaustion? We wonder if it really mattered…especially when you don’t receive thanks. But the flip side of that human inward battle is that you give from the goodness of your heart…not for the thanks. These emotions can be especially magnified at this time of year when people are asking more and more out of you. God asks us to be a cheerful giver. He also asked us to give in private. This does not just mean financially, it also means physically. When you dedicate your entire life to helping others, most of it goes unrecognized. This can leave you ‘feeling’ empty at times.
It is at these times when we must pray and trust in God‘s promises. Serving and helping others comes from the depths of your heart. It’s not about how we ‘feel’, it’s about what we are called to do. The reward is greater than any physical recognition this world can offer. As we face the pressure of the end of year giving, remind yourself that God has purposely orchestrated this into His plan. God wants us to think of others. Our needs will be provided when we focus on helping others more than when we focus on self. If you feel empty and depleted from all the things you’re doing for others, drop to your knees and ask God for his help. Ask God to remind you of the sacrifice of His Son. God gave the ultimate gift to us. God gave us His Son Jesus. God gave us a way to eternity. God gave us a way to forgiveness. God gave us a way to peace, love, and joy. Focus on helping others in your life. Give more than you think you have. In doing so, you will have great satisfaction. When you look back, you will recognize the rewards.

“Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” LUKE 6:38

Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. 2 CORINTHIANS 9:7 

God is with us.


© Layla Freeman 2017
Author of HOPE IN THE STRUGGLE and Layla’s Light 
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Layla Freeman

Layla Freeman is a wife, mother, friend, and encourager to all. She is a passionate disciple of Jesus Christ. Layla is the C.E.O. and Founder of the Non-Profit outreach ministry called “Light of Hope”. www.lightofhopeinc.org. This is an outreach to help individuals and families who are struggling with addiction and life difficulties. On Christmas Eve 2013, Layla lost her oldest daughter Ashley. Ashley was only 23 years old. There is no greater pain than child loss. Layla attributes her ability to face each day, to the overwhelming love of Jesus, who carries her through. This very difficult journey has given Layla the desire to help those who are facing difficult times and to help people see the hope. Her love for helping others is the passion behind Light of Hope. Light of Hope non-profit ministry has a vast variety of services that encourage, educate, empower and bring change and hope to the lives of those who need restoration and new life. Layla was awarded the Non-Profit “Leading Lady” award of Rogers County in 2018. She was also voted #1 community volunteer “Best of Claremore” in both 2019 & 2020. On June 9, 2020, Layla Freeman was Inducted into the Prestigious Marquis Who’s Who Biographical National Registry, as well as recognized as an “Amazing Oklahoman” in October 2020. Additionally, her non-profit Light of Hope was awarded the "Non-Profit of the Year" in both 2019 & 2020 and is also the winner of the International 2020 Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA) Community Drug Prevention Award. Layla is also an author. Her first book publication, HOPE IN THE STRUGGLE, offers hope in the midst of dark times. Layla is also the author of the encouragement blog “Layla’s Light,” found on Facebook or on her website, www.laylafreeman.com. She has been actively writing since 2001. Layla’s personal experience in the extreme difficulties of life gives her a deep understanding of brokenness. Therefore, Layla’s writing and passion behind her desire to help others is empowered by the truth of God’s unconditional love and forgiveness, and the hope we find in God’s promises. Layla is also a Business Owner/Vice President of Asset Industrial, Inc. She and her husband, Randall, work together providing services necessary for the oil refinery industry. She is also a respected Executive Committee Board Member, serving on the State Northeast Oklahoma Workforce Development Board. Layla is a public speaker and enjoys the opportunity to speak and present to groups, schools, churches, organizations, conferences, etc. She has a passion to bring awareness, education, and hope to our society. She believes that working together, and collaboration with others is the key to healthy families and stronger communities. In addition, Layla is a Stephen Minister, Congregational Care Minister, Lay Servant/Speaker, and a volunteer for the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation. (Layla has two daughters who face Type 1 Diabetes daily).

3 thoughts on “When You ‘Feel’ Given Out.

  1. You. Have help me more than once. Thank You Again for the book you sent me last Chirstmas . Has your new book came out Yet ? If it has , Where can I get a Copy, I am still at the same address you sent me. God Bless you and your Family.

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    1. David, it is so good to hear from you. Thank you for asking about my second book. I am still working on that one. I have been focused on my Non-Profit, “Light of Hope” this past year. I will definitely let you know when it is released! God bless you!


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